Is being single really this depressing? Is it really an empty world filled with uncooperative dogs, endless plants to water, sad sack friends, intimate pillow talk with actual pillows and cardboard cutouts in place of actual humans? Surely, it can’t be this difficult to find sexual nirvana, can it?
For Charles Grodin and Steve Martin, it certainly is. The former gets dumped by his gal after she falls for a home invader (come on) and the latter takes a while to realize his own squeeze would rather go to bed with anyone but him.
They are Lonely Guys, perpetual losers completely incapable of finding permanent, compatible partners. They meet in the park after Martin gets thrown out of his ex-girlfriend’s apartment just as he comes to terms with her openly cheating on him with a fellow dancer in her ballet company. Martin’s anger is on a 30-second delay.
Grodin tries to give him advice on how to cope and find substitutes for female companionship. But the advice is so bad, like many Lonely Guys, Grodin contemplates jumping off a bridge sparing himself any more emotional pain. Never a good sign for a comedy when one of your main characters is so bored with the material they want to write themselves out of their own story.
How pathetic is Grodin’s character? He agrees to be a warm-up act of sorts for a male friend in order to keep the guy’s girlfriend entertained before he shows up and tags in. And by entertained, I mean telling “funny” stories to keep her amused. It’s a regular gig for him. You’d think the friend would fix him up with somebody already as a thank you.
When Grodin invites Martin to a party at his apartment, they’re the only two in attendance, unless you count all the life-size celebrity cutouts displayed all over the place. When the cops come to tell them to turn down the loud music, one stays behind to ask where he can get his own substitute human. Hope Gene Hackman took out a restraining order.
At another party with actual guests, Grodin doesn’t interact with any of the women. He’d rather watch Star Wars all by himself in one of the empty bedrooms. It’s almost as if he actually doesn’t want to find love.
And then there’s his talking chess game. Not only does it easily beat him, it calls him an “asshole” for fucking up. I wouldn’t be giving that thing any kind of handshake. I would be elbow dropping it into oblivion.
I’m not sure what Grodin does for a living but Martin is an aspiring author whose main hustle is writing those corny, sappy poems in greeting cards. At first, his boss is thrilled with his lame condolences on cat deaths but eventually Martin blows it and he gets shit-canned. That turns out to be a blessing in disguise.
There are a number of comically dead scenes where Martin interacts with a woman hoping to get a phone number or at least land on the path to a serious relationship only to strike out repeatedly. He tries at the blood bank (the movie initially makes us think they’re already in bed) but the woman has a boyfriend. He tries again at a watering hole where he stupidly misreads the situation and screws himself out of an easy, guilt-free hook-up, a moment we see a mile away.
Getting increasingly desperate despite not really exhausting all his options, he rifles through his little black book and stumbles upon the sole entry. But this one’s a little tied up at the bank. She gets kidnapped by robbers, one of whom takes Martin’s call before they flee. Hate when that happens.
His situation dramatically improves when he spots the debuting Judith Ivey, one of the strangest characters I’ve ever seen in a movie. Check this out. She’s had six husbands and she’s only 30. That’s one red flag.
Here’s another. She can’t make up her mind about him. After a tired running gag involving him not being able to reach her because of excruciatingly dumb contrivances (a smudged napkin, a burned restaurant bill), they finally start seeing each other. But she won’t do anything sexual. She actually keeps her clothes on while they’re in bed together.
Shortly after one of their numerous reconciliations, Ivey reveals she’s never climaxed during sex. (How does she get laid when she never gets undressed?) That leads to Martin actually convincing her that his sneezing is orgasmic. The Lonely Guy is supposed to be a romantic comedy but it fails miserably on both levels.
As the kids say, what’s the dilleo? Well, she’s tired of getting her heart broken and worries that the hopelessly devoted Martin, who never acts like a dick, will soon be ex-husband number seven. So she drifts in and out of his life because she can’t completely resist their chaste encounters. Bizarrely, she agrees to immediately marry Martin’s friend Steve Lawrence, himself recently single after things ultimately don’t work out with his wife and his side piece. I have a lot of questions about that open arrangement (did Eydie know?) but The Lonely Guy is completely disinterested in delving deeper.
Ivey is uneasy about getting closer to Martin but she’d rather jump into an instant disaster with someone she doesn’t love? Sure. Maybe she’s the one who needs the $50 intercom psychiatrist. (Yeah, what’s the dilleo with him, too?)
It’s hard to know which gender this film has more contempt for. In this exaggerated New York, women are either scatterbrains, victims of male oppression, sluts or unavailable. Meanwhile, the men are either sleazy, awkward, clueless, dishonest, doormats or literally screaming into the void hoping for a response that never comes. It’s a miracle anyone gets together.
While bemoaning Ivey’s constant absences, after losing his greeting card gig, Martin drops his romance novel idea and instead decides to write about his unwelcome solitude. It’s such a big seller even a Jimmy Carter impersonator shows up at his signing. And during his promotional tour, he finally gets to have a four-way with a bunch of his fellow guests from The Merv Griffin Show. The creator of Jeopardy apparently likes to watch. Surprised no one calls him Merv The Perv.
What’s in Martin’s book? Apparently, it’s a state secret since he never talks about the contents. This movie is so fucking lazy.
Released in 1984, The Lonely Guy predates dating apps, online chatrooms, social media, speed dating, Internet search engines and the cell phone. These fictional Manhattanites could’ve used those lifelines, although it’s clear they don’t possess a lot of ingenuity or creativity to begin with. Repeatedly screaming a woman’s name while standing on the roof of your apartment building is what happens when you’ve run out of good ideas. It’s a reliable sign of low intelligence.
While sitting in the park with Grodin, Martin and his new pal spot a cute dame jogging past them in short shorts. Martin then decides to do that himself to attract women but he’s not as committed. Not willing to work up his own sweat, apparently you can buy someone else’s. Oddly, Ivey sees right through this act (that’s how she got involved with one of her ex-husbands) but still gives him her number which of course he’s unable to dial.
Speaking of that, when Martin encounters her again at a fancy restaurant, where apparently eating alone is such a major event everyone stops what they’re doing to witness this rare phenomenon firsthand, she’s not alone. There’s one of her exes sitting at the bar waiting for her.
The moment she’s on her honeymoon with a delighted Lawrence and looks as dejected as an English soccer fan pretty much sums up the idiocy of this whole story. Now you think this is a bad idea? This woman is so maddening. Why does Martin pine for her?
Knowing full well the empty lives of these men are too bleak to laugh at, the mood at the end has to be significantly lightened somehow. Continually manipulating its characters into denying their own feelings for most of the movie, the screenplay finally gives up and throws a couple of bones to Martin and Grodin. Based on the disclosed histories of their partners, I wouldn’t get too attached.
Dennis Earl
Hamilton, Ontario, Canada
Monday, July 26, 2021
9:16 p.m.