John Lennon said it best: “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” I can’t think of a more fitting epitaph for 2020.
When the year began, my father was reeling from his hospital stay in the last three days of 2019. He came into the ER on December 29th with one ailment and came out on New Year’s Eve with two more. He was so exhausted from the experience he went to bed early with my mom and didn’t ring in the new year at midnight.
The septic kidney stone, one of the most painful things he’s ever experienced, proved very stubborn indeed. In our local medical facility, he underwent his first surgery to get it reduced in size. After a couple of months of agony that would ebb and flow constantly (some days were more excruciating than others), and once the infection had disappeared he underwent a much needed second surgery. Now even tinier, he finally peed it out. We were all very relieved.
While being examined in the ER (after two hours of waiting to be called), he underwent a blood test which determined his blood sugar levels were at 20. He’s now a Type 2 Diabetic and has made long overdue changes to his eating habits and lifestyle which still astounds me. If only he would check his levels.
All of the stress he endured during his hospital stay gave him a third ailment – shingles – which he neglected to tell us right away because my mother and I are excessive worriers. When his new physician met with him for the first time and saw those large red scabs on his legs, she wouldn’t touch him. She prescribed these rather large pills to ease his suffering. He said it was the most painful thing he’s ever experienced, which, in the aftermath of the septic kidney stone, is rather alarming. My dad is the strongest guy I know and for him to have felt as vulnerable as he did at the end of 2019 and in the early months of 2020 was sobering in many ways.
When I was woken up on December 29th last year I was not expecting to spend 6 hours of my life on next to no food concerned for his well-being wondering what the hell was going on. What I really wanted to do was write. What my parents wanted to do was their laundry.
“Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.”
As a result of all this uncertainty and unease, contemplative pieces that would traditionally be posted under more relaxed conditions during the Christmas and New Year’s holidays would be delayed. My annual review of this website’s output, once again divided into two separate entries, originally scheduled for New Year’s Eve 2019, surfaced a little later on January 2 & 3, 2020. I was so distressed about my dad I abandoned my usual good and bad moments of the year pieces which I had only half-heartedly started anyway. I didn’t even bother starting this year’s editions.
The last of my first wave of History Of The Mystery Track stories, a second one about Nirvana originally scheduled for late December as well, followed a couple of days later. I’m so grateful to have spent those final months of 2019 reviving an old passion of mine from my younger years. I was thrilled to salvage a concept first introduced in my college radio series and extensively reworked here in a series of thoroughly researched essays. (The one about Britney Spears & The Backstreet Boys got some unexpected traffic late this year when a fan posted it in a comment forum on breatheheavy.com. It even got a couple of likes!) Unfortunately, a series of circumstances has prevented further progress. But I’m still hopeful that another batch of offerings will be available in the future.
The second night my dad was in the hospital I watched my last movie of 2019. Angel Has Fallen, the threequel to Olympus Has Fallen and London Has Fallen, is just as bad as its jingoistic predecessors. Having already written assessments of the earlier installments, I threw together another one for number three and it first appeared here the same day I posted the last of the two year-in-blogging retrospectives.
Although I screened fewer movies in 2020 (178 compared to 238 in 2019), I managed to present 45 individual reviews which may be the most I’ve done in a single year in the blogging era.
There were critiques of horror films like Blade II, the Rabid remake, Amityville 3D, Hell Fest, Of Unknown Origin, Hostel Part II, The Craft, the Psycho remake, Cujo, Sweet Sixteen, The Blob remake, Motel Hell and the recent feminist reworking of The Invisible Man.
There were my takes on comedies like Sydney White, She’s The Man, Superstar, Leave It To Beaver, Beauty Shop, Barbershop: The Next Cut, Bucky Larson: Born To Be A Star, The House Bunny, Bingo, Doctor Detroit, Green Card, The 40-Year-Old Virgin, Trainwreck, Knocked Up, The Girl Next Door, Hot Tub Time Machine and Hot Tub Time Machine 2.
I reviewed the science fiction films Passengers, John Carter and Rampage; thrillers like Fatal Attraction, The Da Vinci Code, The Hunt For Red October and Edge Of Darkness; the Clint Eastwood drama Gran Torino; three quarters of the Billy Jack franchise: The Born Losers, The Trial Of Billy Jack and Billy Jack Goes To Washington; and three documentaries: Justin Bieber: Never Say Never, Justin Bieber’s Believe and Revolution.
I don’t usually get a lot of direct feedback from people whose work I write about but shortly after tweeting out a link to my long review of The Trial Of Billy Jack, one of the film’s stars, Michael Bolland, who played the abuse victim Danny, sent me this nice tweet. Now in his 40s, he’s a stand-up comedian. Good to know he’s still around and very positive. Thanks again, Mike!
Speaking of Twitter, I am very tired of being suspended for doing absolutely nothing wrong. Two years ago, my account was frozen because their seriously flawed algorithms wrongly believed my exuberant retweeting about the 2018 US midterm elections could only be performed by a bot. After angrily complaining, they immediately apologized and reinstated me.
But when it happened again this year during the US federal election, they refused to do the right thing and locked me out for an annoyingly prolonged period, 10 days in total. As the world held its breath wondering if creepy Joe Biden would dethrone creepy Donald Trump for the Presidency (he did, four days after election day which Trump has refused to accept or fully acknowledge), I silently seethed not being able to tweet my own thoughts in real time along with everybody else on the service.
So I vented on here instead. Five days later, despite repeatedly complaining to no avail, nothing had changed. So I vented again. Realizing that they were never going to unlock my account from their end, I figured out a clever way to do it myself. And it worked. I’m grateful they’re none the wiser about it. Honestly, I should not have had to find a workaround when I should not have been suspended in the first place. I was lucky. Sadly, many others have been wrongfully banished from the site on a more permanent basis. (Bring back Barrett Brown.)
I’m deeply appreciative of my Twitter journo pals Gina Tron and Scarlett Harris, who I reached out to during the lockout, for being so understanding and supportive during my unnecessary absence. (I had seemingly lost all of my followers which thankfully was only temporary.) Despite being respected writers, and very sweet people, Twitter didn’t listen to them, either. None of this would’ve been necessary if the powers that be would just verify my account already. Isn’t writing 10 Huffington Post articles enough for you people?
In the midst of all this nonsense, my grandmother died. She hadn’t been well for some time. Having just turned 99 in October (because of her advanced-age dementia, she thought she made it to the century mark which wasn’t such a bad thing for her to believe in the end), she suddenly collapsed in the presence of a PSW and was rushed to the ER in Welland where she spent her remaining years with my aunt & uncle who were taking a much needed coffee break when they got the call. She was given no more than 2 days to live.
The day after she was checked in, my other aunt drove my mom to go see her for the last time. But as soon as they entered the building, they were told she had already gasped her final breath. When they were taken to go see her finally, her mouth was wide open, like something out of a horror movie.
Despite terrible eating habits, a longterm smoking addiction she eventually kicked about 30 years ago and a very grumpy demeanour that I only saw some of the time, what got my Grandma in the end was a simple blood clot on her lung. Whenever my mom or her sisters would bring up her questionable, shall we say quirky lifestyle choices, she would always wave off the criticism noting, “I’m still here so I must be doing something right!” It all feels so ironic now.
I’m glad she was in my life for as long as she was. She was kind to me, always spoiling me and her other grandchildren with hugs and kisses and generous gifts. She loved movies and when I started writing reviews in high school, she would always ask my opinions about the latest releases I used to see in my local multiplexes which carried over into college. (As a teen, Grandma was an usherette and actually kept a diary of reviews which is sadly lost. She wasn’t a hoarder of sentimental items, for the most part.)
When she lived with us for 15 years, beginning in 1997, my dad would rent a bunch of movies to watch with her and my mom but after she kept falling asleep through a few, that practice was discontinued. Like myself, she’d rather watch movies on her own. For a time, she even participated in our annual Oscar pool and even won a few pots.
I remember her always buying scratch tickets for each of us on family dinner night on Sundays. Mom always told her she was wasting her money (we never won more than maybe, oh I don’t know, 12 bucks, probably). She was undeterred. She loved the lotteries. But the race track and casinos were her absolute favourites. The constant sound of slot machine ka-chinging must’ve been heaven for her.
When she died that first week in November, we were fortunate to have unusually warm weather for both the visitation and the burial site service which was necessarily restricted to family only. (A proper indoor funeral, which Grandma would’ve preferred, could not happen.) At the visitation, spread out over one afternoon with certain parts of the family limited to their own designated hour, a repeatedly looping photo collage set to light background music featured her in countless photos over the years with all of us. It was delightful.
The funeral was short but moving and funny. I was asked to a be a pallbearer which, for a weak, skinny man, is a difficult fucking job. The casket was heavier than Grandma. But I was honoured to do it with five of my cousins, thankfully most of them stronger than me. She’s resting right next to my grandfather who died of Alzheimer’s 20 years ago. Their plots, far away from where they eventually relocated to, were purchased in the 50s when a traveling salesman gave them the old hard sell and they lived closer to the cemetery.
It was also a gloomy year for millions around the world as the Coronavirus, first detected exactly a year ago in late 2019, would spread rapidly over the course of the next twelve months. Lockdowns and social distancing and mandatory indoor masking by-laws became the norm. So did checking the latest numbers on CNN and Wikipedia. There are now more than 80 million cases worldwide with nearly 2 million gone. But we’ve got vaccinations happening now so there is finally some hope for the new year.
During the first lockdown in my city, my public library was closed for three months in the spring, then reopened for curbside pick-up (you could only get stuff you reserved and you had to book your appointment online in advance) before fully reopening with numerous changes in late July. (We’re currently back in curbside pick-up mode again but at least you can use their computers this time and pick up your stuff whenever.) It was the only difficulty I had during those early days of the crisis, not being inside those wonderful buildings exploring their collections. With a second lockdown now in effect (which should’ve happened two months ago), it looks like we’re in for a long winter.
The darkening mood was perfect for writing poetry. And for a brief moment in time there was a welcome return to rhyming verses and a small but positive response from readers. The most popular poems were The Consequence Of Drive and Mediocre White Man, the latter of which was inspired by a complaint Quillette journalist Jonathan Kay made about this reply to a Robyn Doolittle tweet regarding the monstrous Matt Lauer. Why did Kay delete his response to me, I wonder? Maybe because I retweeted it and liked it and that embarrassed him? Good. The man’s a knob.
Man Of No Substance skewers President-elect Joe Biden and his partisan supporters for pretending he’s some kind of political saviour when his shitty human rights record paved the way for Trump. The Open Door Now Shuts focuses on the dangers of loneliness and sexual repression in the frustrating world of online conversing while Flood Of Anticipation imagines a hypnotic encounter of carnal delights.
No poem I wrote was more prescient than The Coming Rage. After the needless murder of George Floyd during the first lockdown (among other horrifying crimes against Black people), millions of Americans and international citizens collectively marched to protest the growing militarization of the police and its chronic inability and outright refusal to reform its white supremacist origins. And while “Abolish The Police” soon got watered down to “Defund The Police”, the message irritated the right people including the incoming President who stupidly thinks giving well-armed fascists a substantial raise will improve their behaviour. This is only the beginning. If things don’t improve, revolution is inevitable.
Prisoner Of Sympathy was inspired by a falling out I had with someone I once considered a close friend on Twitter. For many years I always comforted her through all her many dramas. There were times she even threatened to quit the site and I convinced her to stay. Despite her ever present neuroses and sudden, unexplained disappearances during our DM exchanges (which she only sometimes apologized for before doing it all over again), I liked talking to her and she liked talking to me.
No subject was off-limits except apparently my own needs and how they weren’t being fulfilled. Suddenly, she questioned my motives even though I wasn’t looking for her to take care of them. For someone whose whole writing career revolved around love and sex, it was an odd, perplexing reaction. I was just frustrated in general which I thought she could relate to on a much smaller scale but she got paranoid and bolted without once again saying good-bye. I apologized needlessly for upsetting her when I did absolutely nothing wrong.
We never spoke again. I gave her a week to reach out – I certainly wasn’t going to do it – but I’ve since blocked her and moved on. Like a number of women I’ve met online over the decades, she turned out to be too toxic and is not missed. What a waste of six years. It’s like someone else I follow on Twitter said a little while ago: they are not your friends. I need to stop learning that lesson the hard way.
Besides railing once again against the unimportant Golden Globes and throwing up all my usual Oscar pieces (predictions, the availability of nominated films on video, and the results on the actual show), I only managed to offer one wrestling piece this year: Three Men Who Survived WrestleMania Retirement Matches. As the pandemic raged on, with the notable exception of Ring Of Honor most pro wrestling companies foolishly carried on without always taking the necessary precautions which inevitably resulted in easily preventable infections.
Watching several WWE pay-per-views on DVD beginning with the scaled-down WrestleMania 36 was a weird, surreal experience. I felt like I was watching a rehearsal instead of the actual show. (The eventual arrival of the silly Thunderdome, reminiscent of Bryan Adams’ Heaven video but with flat screens, in the summer hasn’t been much of a substitute for the absent fans.) Yes, there were some exceptional matches like the three-way ladder match for the tag titles. And it was great to see Drew McIntyre finally get a world title push, but that wasn’t WrestleMania.
The cinematic pairings like the boneyard match with The Undertaker (who finally retired this year) and AJ Styles, and that wacky funhouse encounter between John Cena and Bray Wyatt were not exactly brilliant replacements for traditional matches in front of large, ravenous audiences. With ratings for the increasingly unwatchable Raw and Smackdown going way down (Raw is now generating just a million and a half viewers, a far cry from the eight million it had during the height of the Attitude era), I haven’t been this uninterested in professional wrestling since the mid-1990s. I know the WWE is in rebuild mode now that Cena is a movie star and Roman Reigns has become a Paul Heyman guy, but maybe it’s time for a regime change. And full scale unionization.
For the first time in a decade, The Writings Of Dennis Earl has generated less than 10000 annual hits. Since I stopped writing for HuffPost (they don’t pay, I didn’t sort out their password policy change in time to even submit another entry, and they’ve changed their submission criteria anyways which greatly limited my proposed ideas), page views have declined consistently and precipitously in the last several years. With the 15th anniversary of the original site approaching (I originally debuted on MSN Spaces before moving here in 2010), obviously something has to change.
Paradoxically, hits actually started to increase in the last couple of months so maybe momentum will finally swing in the more positive direction again. Regardless, I still enjoy doing this. I just wish it was possible to reach a wider audience and make a good living at it. The Constanza period lives on.
Until this year, I had never really understood or paid much attention to the Shares statistic because of ignorance (it has nothing to do with stocks and bonds, unfortunately) and for quite a while, I only had as many as 2. But something changed in 2020 and now I have almost 1400. My review of My Boss’ Daughter has gotten the most with 14. Right behind are a couple of Sophia Bush pieces that sandwich an entry from one of my old Winners & Losers series. Most of the rest of the shared pieces are in the single digits.
WordPress only keeps track of links posted on Facebook and Twitter with the former having a slight lead over the latter. Perhaps I should examine this more closely. Who is sharing all of my work? Whoever they are, thank you for all the support. It means a lot. Kinda funny how it all just started happening only recently, though.
Since the start of the WordPress era, this site has generated just over 251,000 page views. Pretty small potatoes, but hey, I’ll take it. While I’m proud of the nearly 1300 postings I’ve put together over the entire run of this site, I wasn’t able to do my usual wide variety of entries this year. (Most of the offerings were movie reviews.) As we continue to survive a terrible global crisis together, here’s hoping I somehow find the motivation and determination to right the ship.
Nothing I wrote this year was a big audience breakout, but the archives continue to generate interest as several Seinfeld trivia pieces finished in the Top 10. And I’m happy some attention was afforded to a few of my History Of The Mystery Track essays. One of the many disappointments this year was not being able to continue on right after that second Nirvana piece. I’m not sure how to continue, frankly, as we enter a new uncertain future. But as long as something excites me and as long as I can figure out a compelling way to express that excitement, this will be the forum to showcase it.
Happy New Year, everyone.
Dennis Earl
Hamilton, Ontario, Canada
Thursday, December 31, 2020
9:57 p.m.